The other day, Mr Expression and I were talking about something (must have been important) and I idly switched on a music channel, thinking this was a good idea as my 4 year old loves music.
What I saw was Rihanna doing this:
She wasn’t bothered in the slightest. She asked for Hercules instead (current favourite film).
It did get me thinking, however – what am I going to do when/if she wants to watch this stuff? When she has access to the Internet that she controls, even a TV in her room (the horror- but I think I had one around age 12).
I began to devise a fledgling action plan, with the aim of such a plan being realistic and not too machiavellian. It so far reads something like this:
– When I first see her or my younger daughter viewing music videos which show the above images, make generously disapproving comments whilst still seeming like ‘trendy mum’, such as “I really wish women didn’t feel the need to do that. I mean Rihanna is clearly beautiful and talented as we can all see – there’s absolutely no need for her to wear that REVEALING clothing and dance in such a NEEDLESSLY PROVOCATIVE way.”
– Leave magazine articles about inspirational women (clothed, non-gyrating) all around the house at various ‘hotspots’ (thinking next to fridge, near Mr Expression’s nut jar, adjacent to kettle).
– Cannily encouraging involvement in as many positive activities as possible, thus leaving little time for tv/unnecessary Internet usage. I don’t care what it is – Girl Scouts, chess, basket making, helping old ladies cross the road – as long as there are no gyrators around. Or boys.
– Also encourage geekiness. Shouldn’t be too onerous as Mr Expression works in geeky digital field. Rihanna + geek generally don’t mix = good thing.
– Finally, and most obviously, talk about the issue of women in society with both my daughters and ensure all family members do the same in some shape or form.
– Oh I thought of another one. Talk about female members of our family who have all done pretty well for themselves during their lives – without taking their clothes off to please men/meet perceived societal expectations (well I hope not anyway – that would be news to me!).
I think those actions are a good starting point. Hey maybe I could add a sticker chart in somewhere (maybe not…).
Photo credits: I just googled it. Please don’t sue me.