This evening, my fiancee entered the house, climbed the stairs with eager anticipation at seeing his two boisterous girls and serene, loving better half, and was greeted by this:
Scary, isn’t it? Yes – Zombie Mum made an appearance. And this is often the case after a day of dealing with atwo girls aged three and one and their boisterous, unforgiving demands.
Each day is different. Today involved ‘cake gate’,’cat-ornament’ gate and ‘I demand another bedtime story-gate’ for example.
Whilst being a mum is also the most rewarding and uplifting thing I’ve ever done, I do need, nay DEMAND, my own chill out time. Just a bit.
There isn’t much time in a given day to relax, catch your breath and collect your thoughts (in fact there isn’t any!).
However our bedtime routine does leave a bit of room for this. That is, Mr EC gets the lovely job of doing bedtime stories and finally putting them both to bed. This can take some time, particularly if three year old has decided to practice being a ‘bouncerina’ on her bed and one year old is constantly standing up in her cot, banging her milk cup on the side very loudly and shouting “door!”.
Not my problem.
There are 10 things that I do in that hour (ok, sometimes 40 minutes.) after my role in bedtime is OVER. Here they are:
- Mentally detox. During my walk away from the bedroom towards our bedroom and bathroom, where I intend to firmly remain for the next hour, I ask my mind to begin to relax and calm itself.
- Decide on book, magazine or phone browsing.
I don’t have the chance to just read or browse during the day, so I’ll pick something to take into the bath with me. Tonight I just fancied catching up with Twitter, for example. On other nights, I take the Kindle and indulge my current Game of Thrones obsession.
- Have a bath. I used to just top up the remnants of the girls’ bath with hot water. I don’t do that anymore after the realisation that they’re probably weeing in it. I have a fresh bath, and add some of my essential oils or my favourite Clarins relaxing bath bubbles.
- Have a mental run through of the day. Before I read/browse, I will spend a few moments just mentally taking myself through the day and reviewing what happened. It’s a meditative act and I find it really calming and destressing.
- Do something pamper-wise. I love anything spa or beauty-related, so I will try and do one thing during that bathtime which feels as though I’m pampering myself. It might be just using a sample of a new cleanser I picked up somewhere, or using a face mask.
- Put warm pjs on. After the bath, it’s a ritual of mine to put my previously-warmed-on-the-radiator-pyjamas on! Geeky, I know – but it just feels nice.
- Have a few minutes lie down. I just recover from my bath a little by having a lie down, rather than launching straight into the next task at hand.
- Catch up on un-replied to messages. Ok I might lie there a bit longer and catch up on some texts or tweets.
- Ignore any child interruption. Throughout all of this, I studiously ignore any child interruption which, despite my intense instruction to the contrary, appears to still take place on occasion. This cannot be allowed. If a child enters the bathroon, for example, I simply shout very loudly, and very indignantly, to Mr EC to come and sort it out.
- Finally take my backside downstairs to make dinner. It has to happen eventually. On a good day, I’ve usually prepared most of it beforehand, or at least got something out of the freezer.
I feel another blog post coming on…10 thing I do once I’ve collapsed on the sofa after making dinner!
What do you do once your children have gone to bed? I’d love to hear from you.