Blog every day in August: A role model

This month I am taking part in Yummy Mummy in Training’s ‘Blog every day in August’ challenge. Read all my posts to date here.

Day 26 is “a role model”.

I really struggled to think of someone who I think of as a role model. There are people I admire, but not enough to be a role model. According to the Oxford English Dictionary, a role model is “a person looked to by others as an example to be imitated.” I mean, my thoughts went to writer Caitlin Moran, who I admire very much, but I don’t really want to imitate her.

So I had to turn this theme on its head.


It’s me, isn’t it? I and my partner alongside other close members of our family are role models to our daughters.

A quick search of the literature on the subject fetches legions of articles on the topic. Parents are the first people children emulate – we’re their world, how they’re shaped, how the connections in their developing brains decide to match up. We set the pattern of their future behaviour.

Am I a good role model? I guess that will be for them to decide, in future years.


Sometimes, I feel like I’m not (the picture above looks just like me, by the way!). Some days will be a ‘bad mummy’ day. As the day progresses, my nerves will feel increasingly stretched, and I lose it, I shout.

Then, in the evening when all is calm, I feel guilt. I realise that my exasperation did not help matters; on the contrary, it made nearly-three-year-old even more moody. And why wouldn’t it? Makes perfect sense when you have the time and mental space to think.

Am I a good role model in these moments? No. Obviously I should be a perfect Jo Frost inspired perfect toddler-disciplinarian and behaviour manager. They’ll emulate my behaviour, therefore I should be on an even keel all of the time.


This is what I should be like.

I like to think, however, that I am most of these things for more than half of the time (for more than half of the year?!). I’m hoping that this takes me some way to being a good role model.

The key issue here is that I aim to be the best role model I can be for my children. I want the best for them, and I want them to be confident and resilient enough to unlock their potential.

I’m human. And I’m a mother.

Read day 27 here.


Working Mum of two, living in Didsbury, Manchester, in a house which breeds washing, mushed up raisins and various toys in the brightest primary colours. Oh, and the odd empty wine glass.

6 thoughts on “Blog every day in August: A role model

  1. I really like this post and the art work lol! Firstly, I think the fact that you know you are a role model to your kids is more than some parents ever realise. Secondly, the fact that you try your best and admit when you could have handled something better is fab!

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